now i'm not saying i'm impartial to this illness, i think every female in the world is a victim at some point in their lives.
its the 'doing-to-much' illness.
now this is what women tend to do when they really like or love someone..they go above and beyond to make them happy and serve their needs.
they will buy them gifts,
they will pay for them,
they will cook for them,
they will accept their flaws
they will feel responsible to make them better if their ill,
and when the day comes and their boyfriend/fiance/'friend'/husband f*cks them over (because this will happen) they will forgive him and welcome them back with both arms and a week later they will be back to their selfless ways.
now here's how i look at it..
most men are like babies.. imagine a baby in their pram and they want a toy to make them happy (a toy being a selfless act you do to make them happy) and then you bombard them with loads of toys all at once...what will the baby do?
in real life, the baby will take a look at the toys, feel them (maybe put them in their mouth but ignore this bit) but after a sort time they will get bored and throw all the toys out the pram and start crying again...but what is there left to give them...a women would buy loads and loads of other toys and give the baby all the toys again and the cycle will continue.
now this is the exact thing that happens when men receive too much love and affection.
if you bombard him with gifts,love,attention and sex what has he got to anticipate for...you've already given him everything right? so he will be fulfilled for a while but after a little while whats going to happen? hes going to get bored and want more because that's just how humans are they always want more..like in life you want good grades, then you wants a good job, then you want a nice house, then you want nice things , it will never ever stop!
but the sad part is when you've given your all and you think you've done a great job, he thinks...hmmm what else is out there in the sea.. and your left thinking what did i do wrong? here is what you did wrong: you expected him to notice and you sold yourself short!
men don't notice...this is a fact in life..men and women are soooo different that they show their love in different ways, if you show your love by giving your all he will think that is just a characteristic of yours, as that's who you are. Now i'm not saying that's intentional or that he doesn't love you, i'm just saying he will not notice everything you do because men do not analyse every single detail like we do. for example of you bring him a drink he will not think that was a thoughtful gesture even if it was.
so how do we resolve this...improve our confidence and be in the mind frame that WE ARE THE PRIZE NOT THEM! you will be treated how you allow yourself to be treated so give little by little and if you give a little and you see no reaction of giving back..stop! stop giving and if he asks why, you can say 'what are you doing for me?' he will then see that these 'toys' need to be appreciated individually and earned!
also, here is the mistake many beautiful ladies make : don't be scared to loose him!
if you do loose him over not giving as much as you did while receiving not much back, then do you know what? there's something better in store for you I PROMISE! (and you can hold me to that)
xoxo
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