you cant be mad hunny!

First of all im sorry its been a while! im a grown up now so i have to go to work (i blame my poor parents but more on all of that on another day)


SO, all im hearing recently is stuff about 'he cheated on her' and 'her man is hungry' and 'she don't know how to keep him'....STOP

stop it all now.

lets get one thing straight before we even go any further.
if your man is a dog
IT. IS. NOT. YOUR. FAULT

gurllllllllllll, your a crazy ass so and so if you think your mans nasty behavior has anything to do with you so stop blaming yourself!

and all those girls saying you don't know how to keep a man are just mad because they don't even got one to keep so why are you talking? shriek!

now girls seriously, i know it can happen. when your boyfriend cheats on you, you might think why me? after all i put in, was it not good enough?... and its completely normal to think like that at some point because, when things like this happen, as humans we want to find an explanation and inevitably our self esteem will be reduced because we might feel like we weren't good enough for the one we love. But it like this.... you go into cafe Nero and you buy a cheesecake (the yummy one with the chocolate swirls) but then you see a hot chocolate with whipped cream and chocolate sprinkles and you want both! so then you give into the hot chocolate too and halfway threw you feel sick and you regret buying the hot chocolate  well your the cheesecake and the other women is the hot chocolate. you boyfriend might not have intended to have her initially but he couldn't control his temptations and thought he could take on you both. and when he realized its too much to handle he lost you and realized his mistake. so how could it be your fault? it isn't! its his fault because hes a hungry fat cow NOT YOU!


The real debatable question is whether its the other women fault at all....

when another women causes drama for us as girls we will probably hate that girl and anything remotely related to her for the rest of out lives but do we really have the right to blame her. i mean after all, she doesn't owe you anything......she didn't know what you and your boyfriend shared....he did! we have to remember also that maybe she didn't even know about you, maybe she thought she was the only one. If she did then that's a different story in which case that hoe needs to wait for karma to get her. But usually girls being as naive as they are, they don't even know what rats are really like.

this is the situation .

he got interested,
he approached her,
he betrayed you,
he flirted,
he kissed her,
he took her to bed,
he slept with her,

now at which point in that sequence did she hold a gun to his head?

see...

you cant make excuses for your men ladies and you defiantly cant blame the other girl because it takes two to tango and he seems like he was doing a whole lot of playing about.

all in all i think we've established that the only person to blame when your partner cheats is your partner and all we can do after that is hope he catches and STI and gets his willy chopped off (preferable in a conscious state for maximum pain)

xoxo